Learning how to communicate well is so important for men and women alike. It will be beneficial in the workplace, at home, and in all of your relationships. This is why every person should take the time to objectively look at things that they are doing to cause distress when they communicate. Here are a couple common mistakes that people make while communicating.
1. Thinking Of Their Response Instead Of Listening
One of the worst things you can do be thinking of your response while you are suppose to be listening to someone else. If you start thinking of what you are going to say next, then you are not really listening to them. You are formulating your response in your head, while you should be trying to understand what the person is saying.
This may require you taking more time to think about what you want to say next. For example, you might be talking to someone and since you were listening it may take a couple moments of silence between each interchange for you to think. You can say something like, "that was a good point, let me think about how I feel about that" or "I need some time to process what you just said." These kinds of statements let the person know that you really listened to them.
2. Not Listening To The Undertones
Some people have a hard time saying what they mean. For example, you spouse may be angry about you forgetting to pick up something at the store, when what they are really saying is that they don't feel like you care about them enough to listen. Sometimes people don't say what they mean. Instead, of being defensive, try to step back and figure out what the person is feeling.
3. Not Saying Directly What You Want
When talking to someone it is best if you can try to be direct in your communication. Instead of hinting that you would like to come in later the next day, be direct and straightforward in your request. This way it clears up any uncertainty that could lead to an argument later.
Just because you are being direct doesn't mean that you have to be rude. You can be direct and straightforward in a kind and non-threatening way. You are just being honest about what you need and what you feel.
These are just a couple things that you can do to improve your communication. For more information, consult a communication skills speaker.Share
9 June 2015
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